Today we talked a lot on discipline techniques, and ways to teach the boys without all the nagging.
If the nagging is a minimum, and I am not talking all the time, things go more smoothly.
Here are a few bits that we talked about...
"I see that you are _______. What might we do about this now? "
"My way is not working. Can you think of a better way to do this?"
"What is going to happen if you continue to ____?"
Make sure to have them release energy each day...punching bag, parks, Wii Sports
Have them participate in chores, and make it fun.
Robert Kiwaski: Rich Dad, Poor Dad has a book for kids. There is a Cash Flow game for kids as well that shows chores, and money. Jane Seymour has a book on better living. Check it out.
Peg System...for chores (without asking). If they can go for the whole week, double allowance.
Do not remove the plate, if they forget to clear it from the table...just leave it there for next time they sit down.
Cook dinner with them. Have fun with them. Learn to relax and let go of the unimportant things.
Finish the book, and keep the ideas written where I can see them and use them. Especially for sibling rivalry.
Another good session, and I have so much to still learn and work on. This is not easy to change, but I will keep trying. I can see my improvement, and the way I handle the kids better during the tough times. I am able to walk in, take a look at the situation and in a responsible, calm voice speak to them. It feels so much better to know that they boys will see how to act appropriately when they deal with tough times too!